We are very often in a situation where we lack clarity, and that drains our energy and keeps us away from thriving. We are in the “lack of decision” mode, which prevents us from taking actions. And the small steps, small actions are those which bring us closer to our goals. And what is a goal? A dream with a deadline.
While interviewing top performers on Effortless High Performance, I repeatedly came across the word “clarity.”
A senior client relationship manager with over sixteen years experience within the executive development field said: "I perform effortlessly within an environment or situation, where many factors are in place; being in the position to understand the work you are doing – subject matter you are dealing with. So clarity is essential to anybody to perform effortlessly."
An award – winning Business Coach, Speaker and Author answered to the question “What factors did influence you to perform effortlessly?” — “Preparation, knowledge, practice, and clarity of mind.” A top CEO in the Healthcare Industry answered the same question: “Having knowledge about the direction, empowerment, clarity, establishing the ‘right’ team about the mission.”
Clarity is an important prerequisite for us to tap in into the effortless high performance level and to thrive in all aspects of life.
There are two aspects of clarity for me:
Clarity on the decision and clarity on the steps (the process). What is primary and more important is clarity on the decision. Decision-making process can be conscious and unconscious. The latter is fear-based. Taking a conscious decision is based on drawing on your knowledge and experience, your gut feeling and your emotions. This is a very holistic approach, where intuition comes first and the other elements are just supportive. I have observed that, very often in the past, many of my personal life decisions were emotional, whereas my business decisions were taken invariably on the bases of logical analysis of information. My observation makes me inclined to believe that a purely logical or a purely emotional approach prevented me from achieving long-term successes and sustainability. Only a decision taken by such a holistic approach can lead to sustainable results.
The decision making and clarifying the steps are interconnected processes. Why? Because only a conscious decision can be followed through in a committed manner. Wholehearted commitment is at the core of maintaining one’s trust to the process of manifestation, especially when facing set backs on the way.
What is important to know about clarity of the steps? Aren’t the steps small decisions taken on a daily basis?
If you are not aligned with the big decision, how can you create a sustainable pathway of small and consistent humble steps? Hesitation pops up in your mind, which creates the “lack of clarity” condition and as a consequence there is an energy drain.
While doing a research on the clarity topic, I came across the work of Dr. Lara Honos – Webb. She suggests the following very simple steps:
1. Take a breath and say “I don’t know”. You take yourself out of problem-solving mind that is desperate and needy to know. That is probably the worst place to try to get a refreshing answer to a perplexing problem.
2. Remember the importance of every time you say “I don’t know” to just slow down, let yourself slow down and focus on your breath and look at your emotions, after you say “I don’t know” and just see is there a feeling that comes up. Even if it is just a little glimpse of a feeling, try to amplify that experience, because the desperate search for clarification and answer can be a ruse by your mind to repress or suppress an emotional experience.
As Cicero said: “Nobody can give you a wiser advice than yourself.”
We have much more clarity than we think.
I like how the psychologist Dr. Amy Johnson compares this state with a “basket case” – the state where you are honestly entertaining the flurry of compelling thought and you are completely unaware of the calm and clarity beneath the thought - that is confusion.
Here is a wonderful example – the knowing voice is like us after 8 hours of good sleep, good breakfast and the confused voice would be like us without sleep.
When we are unclear, we are disturbed, anxious, drained, unfocused. This is an experience, which I call “fog” experience.
The big question is: “How to pull ourselves out from the “fog” experience?”