The Value of Using A Simple Tool… How to Shift Your Life?

I just came back from beautiful Vienna and am looking forward to sharing with you two magical tools that can move you to your dream life.

I was honoured to be one of the guests in an amazing live radio show “Trust Your Gut”. I shared with the audience my personal journey and how using a simple and yet magical tool, I moved to a place, where I live my dream life. The other guest was sharing his story with using another simple and yet powerful tool – saying “No”!

These tools are as simple as they sound and not easy to implement. Why?

Read the following story and you’ll know…

While going through our life journeys we very often compromise ourselves and miss opportunities because we are unconsciously blocking ourselves due to fears, limiting beliefs, wrong assumptions and interpretations. Our inner and deeply ingrained fears are the major block to stop us experiencing life fully.

How often have you ignored a “feeling” or a “sensation”, that was inviting you for an action? And you have simply blocked it… How often have you felt suffocated or overwhelmed with all the things happening in your life and you were afraid to say “No” to certain people and projects? In both cases you say “No” to yourself and forbid to say “Yes” to life. The life you dream to create for yourself…

How does saying “Yes” or “No” relate to intuition? Intuition is a very subtle feeling, an impulse you sense in your body. It’s our internal navigation system that carries us forward in life in the desired direction. What happens is it cannot work for us until we achieve inner peace and harmony. This internal navigation system is turned off, when there is plenty of mental chatter. We are very often overwhelmed with worries about the future and regrets, unforgiveness that is relating to past events, hurts and pain.

In order to allow life to unfold beautifully for us, we need to start saying “Yes” to ourselves and “No” to all disturbances and distractions. That is how we can experience the life we desire and stay tuned in with ourselves.

It’s not that simple to get to the point in life where you can intuitively evaluate what the right “Yes” and “No” is for you.

My personal story proves it. I needed to go through lots of turbulence and emotional roller coaster, so that I wake up for life. It took me a journey of 20 years. I had two “wake up” calls after serious health issues and personal losses. So here I am today, approaching life with openness, trust and expecting only good things to happen to me! And they happen indeed… Because I have a strong sense of identity, inner knowledge and most importantly I found my life purpose.

If you ask me “how did you get there?” I can say that it started with finding the answers of the most important questions:

  • What do I really want in life?
  • What is my life purpose?
  • Which are my core values?
  • How can I live in alignment with WHO I am – meaning in alignment with my values and my life purpose?

It took me a year and a half to find the answers to those questions. I created the right environment to listen to my inner wisdom – a peaceful inner environment. In this way I prepared myself to say “Yes” to myself and life.

Mahatma Gandhi once said “Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.”

 Here is how I found inner peace. It takes strong belief in yourself and practice.

I call them my six stepping stones to inner peace, which I wholeheartedly share with you:

1.Stay calm. Be in emotional control

In our daily lives we face situations that break our inner peace and harmony. For example interacting with toxic people, who exude catabolic energy (negative, destructive.)

I learned a simple technique to come back to myself, when exposed to unpleasant circumstances:

“I Am Calm” Simply touch your thumb and forefinger together, take in a deep breath and say quietly to yourself, “I am....” as you inhale, and “...calm” as you exhale. Allow the feeling of “calm” to reverberate throughout your entire body. The act of touching thumb to forefinger will serve as a physical reminder to come back to the moment and the words “I am calm” will wash away the stress.

 Quieting your nervous system and nurturing yourself can save you hours of wasted anxiety, sudden blowups, potential confrontations, health stress and costly oversights. It’s tonic for the spirit.

2.Be compassionate

Compassion fills ourselves with self-love, decreases the needy us. Love comes from within. We are already full and complete.

Scientific studies suggest there are not only emotional and spiritual benefits to compassion, but also physical benefits. Compassion leads to an increase in the Dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA) hormone which fights and counteracts the ageing process while reducing cortisol, the “stress” hormone.

 Researchers have a name for that high we get from witnessing human goodness: “moral elevation.” And it has been shown to have many positive benefits. It appears that moral elevation inspires altruism because of a mixture of arousal and the desire to protect others.

Watch movies that elevate your compassion and inspire good feelings, read literature that nurtures your compassion.

Practice at least one random act of kindness each day!

3.Practice gratitude

 To function on an optimal level we develop the ability to increase happiness in our lives. Science says that happiness is a trainable skill. And happiness comes from within. Not from outside circumstances.

How to be completely in control of our own levels of happiness and to be able to boost them really easily? The secret is gratitude. Gratitude increases spirituality, self-worth, self-centeredness, makes us sleep better and boosts our energy level.

 Science says that practicing gratitude causes us to have more energy, higher emotional intelligence, more forgiving attitudes, less depression, less anxiousness, more feelings of being socially connected, better sleep.

Gratitude is such an important trait for our physical wellbeing. We all need to practice it on a daily basis. Gratitude leads to happiness and science says happiness causes us to perform better.

4.Practice forgiveness

Why forgiveness? Because forgiveness creates peace with ourselves and the world around us so that we can truly function optimally.

Our bodies are poisoned by three Rs: rejection, resentment and regrets. Forgiving someone actually heals your heart.

When talking about forgiveness and letting go, we should consider the fundamental attribution error phenomena. The fundamental attribution error is our tendency to explain someone's behaviour based on internal factors, such as personality or disposition, and to underestimate the influence that external factors, such as situational influences, have on another person's behaviour. This is particularly true when the behaviour is negative.

 Interestingly, social psychologists have found that we make the fundamental attribution error about other people but rarely ourselves.

 When we do things, we always have a good reason. It is other people we see as defective.

Closely related to the fundamental attribution error is the tendency we all have to take things too personally. Maybe you could call this the fundamental selfishness error, or the “all about me” effect. This describes the everyday experience of encountering people who don’t treat you just right.

 Forgiveness is a trainable skill. Forgiveness, at a minimum, is a decision to let go of the desire for revenge and ill-will toward the person who wronged you. It may also include feelings of goodwill toward the other person.

Granting forgiveness is more rewarding to you than the person you forgive. It is not excusing ones past behaviour or actions. It is rather a process which allows you to empower and thus free yourself of any burden or grudge weighing you down.

Researchers have discovered that holding a grudge has the same effects on the body as stressful events: muscles tense, blood pressure rises and sweating increases.

Another study revealed a link between forgiving someone for a betrayal with improvements in blood pressure and heart rate, and a decreased workload for the heart. Forgiveness can also result in less pain and anxiety, as seen in a study where people with chronic back pain meditated focusing on converting anger to compassion. 

5.Establish boundaries

One of the most important things we need to learn in life is to set boundaries so that others will not manipulate or invade us. Being aware of your aura and of how other’s people’s energy affects you and then clearing it away is one important way to do this. This is intuitive self-defence, and using it gives you tools to use anywhere, anytime, to identify trouble and move away from the source. One of your best self-care tools is your left and right foot. When you are exposed to any kind of soul distressing energy, whenever possible, use them and leave! Get away from negativity as fast as you can, even making up an excuse of necessary, such us “I don’t know why, but suddenly I don’t feel well and need some fresh air!” Do not just stand in the midst of negative energy and take it in. It will make you sick!

6.Surround yourself with inspirational and positive people and

 Simplify your life!